Njira 9 zotsimikizira anthu ndikuteteza malingaliro anuzoperekedwa patsamba lino zingakhudze moyo wanu wonse wamtsogolo. Ngati mumamatira pamalangizo ena omwe aperekedwa pano, mutha kusintha zambiri pazochitika zanu.
Koma choyamba, tiyeni tione kuti ndi chiyani mawonedwe.
Mawonedwe - Awa ndi moyo kapena malingaliro, omwe aliyense wa ife amawunika zomwe zikuchitika mozungulira. Mawuwa amachokera pakutanthauzira malo omwe wowonererayo ali komanso momwe malingaliro omwe amamuwona amatengera.
Mwachitsanzo, pansi pa chithunzi mukuwona nambala. Kodi mungamupatse dzina? Munthu yemwe kumanzere kwake akutsimikiza kuti ali ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi patsogolo pake, koma mdani wake kumanja amatsutsa mwamphamvu, popeza akuwona nambala naini.
Ndi uti amene ali wolondola? Mwina onse.
Koma m'moyo nthawi zambiri timakumana ndi zovuta zomwe timafunikira kuteteza malingaliro kapena mfundo zina. Ndipo nthawi zina kutsimikizira wina za izo.
M'nkhaniyi, tiwona njira 9 zotsimikizira anthu ndi kuteteza malingaliro awo. Mabukuwa adatengedwa kuchokera m'buku lotchuka kwambiri la Dale Carnegie - "Momwe Mungapambitsire Anzanu ndi Kukopa Anthu"
Dodge mkangano
Modabwitsa, tikamayesetsa "kupambana" mkanganowo, timakhala ndi mwayi wocheperako. Zachidziwikire, tikamanena mawu oti "mkangano" timatanthauza china chopanda tanthauzo komanso chotengeka. Kupatula apo, ndi mikangano yotere yomwe imabweretsa mavuto. Kuti muwapewe, muyenera kumvetsetsa kufunikira kopewa mkanganowu.
Talingalirani nkhani yochokera m'moyo wa wolemba bukuli, Dale Carnegie.
Panthawi ina yaphwando, njonda yomwe idakhala pafupi nane idalankhula nkhani yoseketsa, zomwe zimayambira pamalingaliro akuti: "Pali mulungu yemwe amapanga mawonekedwe athu." Wofotokozayo adati mawuwo adatengedwa m'Baibulo. Anali kulakwitsa, ndinadziwa.
Ndipo, kuti ndimveke kufunikira kwanga, ndidamuwongolera. Anayamba kulimbikira. Chani? Shakespeare? Sizingatheke! Awa ndi mawu ochokera m'Baibulo. Ndipo akudziwa.
Pafupi nafe panali mnzanga, yemwe adakhala zaka zingapo akuphunzira za Shakespeare ndipo tidamupempha kuti athetse kusamvana kwathu. Anatimvera mosamala, kenako nkuponda phazi langa pansi pa tebulo nati: "Dale, walakwa."
Titafika kunyumba, ndinamuuza kuti:
- Frank, mukudziwa bwino lomwe kuti mawuwa achokera kwa Shakespeare.
“Inde,” anayankha motero, “koma iwe ndi ine tinali pa chakudya chamadzulo. Bwanji mukukangana pa nkhani yopepuka ngati imeneyi? Tengani upangiri wanga: Nthawi iliyonse yomwe ungathe, pewani pakona.
Papita zaka zambiri kuchokera pamenepo, ndipo uphungu wanzeru umenewu wakhudza kwambiri moyo wanga.
Zowonadi, pali njira imodzi yokha yokwaniritsira zabwino pazokangana, ndikuwupewa.
Zowonadi, milandu isanu ndi inayi mwa khumi, kumapeto kwa mkangano, aliyense amakhalabe wotsimikiza zakulungama kwawo. Mwambiri, aliyense amene akuchita chitukuko chake posachedwa amabwera ku lingaliro la kusathandiza kwa mkanganowo.
Monga a Benjamin Franklin adati: "Mukamatsutsana, nthawi zina mutha kupambana, koma kungakhale kupambana kopanda tanthauzo, chifukwa simudzapambana chisomo cha mdani wanu."
Ganizirani zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu: kupambana kwakunja, kupambana kwamaphunziro kapena kufunira zabwino munthu. Ndizosowa kwambiri kuti mukwaniritse munthawi yomweyo.
Nyuzipepala ina inali ndi epitaph yabwino:
"Apa pali thupi la William Jay, yemwe adamwalira akuteteza ufulu wake wowoloka msewu."
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kutsimikizira anthu ndikuteteza malingaliro anu, phunzirani kupewa mikangano yopanda pake.
Vomerezani zolakwa
Kutha kuvomereza zolakwa zanu nthawi zonse kumapereka zotsatira zabwino. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, zimagwirira ntchito kutipindulitsa kuposa kuyesa kupereka zifukwa tikalakwitsa.
Munthu aliyense amafuna kudzimva kuti ndiwofunika, ndipo tikalakwitsa ndikudziweruza tokha, mdani wathu watsala ndi njira yokhayo yothetsera izi - kuwonetsa kuwolowa manja. Taganizirani izi.
Komabe, pazifukwa zina, ambiri amanyalanyaza chowonadi chophwekachi, ndipo ngakhale kulakwitsa kwawo kukuwonekera, amayesetsa kupeza zifukwa zina mokomera iwowo. Awa ndi malo otayika pasadakhale, omwe sayenera kutengedwa ndi munthu woyenera.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kukopa anthu kuti akuwoneni, vomerezani zolakwa zanu nthawi yomweyo komanso moona mtima.
Khalani ansangala
Ngati mukufuna kupambana wina mbali yanu, khulupirirani koyamba kuti ndinu ochezeka ndipo chitani moona mtima.
Dzuwa lingatipangitse kuvula chofunda chathu msanga kuposa mphepo, ndipo kukoma mtima ndi njira yaubwenzi zimatitsimikizira bwino kuposa kuponderezana komanso kupsa mtima.
Injiniya Staub anafuna kuti achepetse renti. Komabe, adadziwa kuti mbuye wawo ndiwouma mutu ndi wamakani. Kenako adamulembera kuti azituluka mnyumbayo ikangotha ntchito.
Atalandira kalatayo, mwinimundayo adadza kwa engineer kuja ndi secretary wake. Anakumana naye wochezeka ndipo sanalankhule za ndalama. Anandiuza kuti amakonda nyumba ya eni ndi momwe amasamalirira, ndikuti iye, Staub, akadakhala mosangalala chaka china, koma sangakwanitse.
Mwachidziwikire, mwininyumbayo anali asanalandirepo kotere kuchokera kwa omwe amakhala nawo ndipo anali wosokonezeka pang'ono.
Anayamba kulankhula zodandaula zake ndikudandaula za omwe akukhalamo. Mmodzi wa iwo adamulembera makalata onyoza. Wina adaopseza kuti aswa mgwirizanowu ngati mwiniwakeyo asapangitse mnansi wake kuti asiye kulira.
"Ndizotsitsimula bwanji kukhala ndi lendi wonga iwe," adatero kumapeto. Kenako, ngakhale popanda chopempha chilichonse kuchokera kwa Staub, adadzipereka kuti agwirizana pamalipiro omwe angamukwaniritse.
Komabe, ngati injiniya amayesera kuchepetsa lendi pogwiritsa ntchito njira za ena ena, ndiye kuti mwina akadakumana ndi vuto lomwelo.
Njira yaubwenzi komanso yofatsa yothetsera vutoli yapambana. Ndipo izi ndizachilengedwe.
Njira ya Socrates
Socrates ndi m'modzi mwa akatswiri anzeru zakale achi Greek. Wakhala ndi gawo lalikulu pamibadwo yambiri ya oganiza.
Socrates anagwiritsa ntchito njira yokopa yomwe masiku ano imadziwika kuti Socratic Method. Ili ndi matanthauzidwe angapo. Imodzi ndiyo kupeza mayankho ovomerezeka kumayambiriro kwa zokambirana.
Socrates anafunsa mafunso omwe mdani wake anakakamizidwa kuvomereza. Adalandira ziganizo chimodzichimodzi, mpaka mndandanda wonse wa INDE udawonekera. Pamapeto pake, munthuyo adadzipeza yekha pomaliza zomwe anali atakana kale.
Achi China ali ndi mwambi womwe uli ndi nzeru zakum'mawa kwazaka zambiri:
"Iye amene akuyenda modekha amapita kutali."
Mwa njira, chonde dziwani kuti andale ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito njira yolandirira mayankho kuchokera kwa anthu akafunika kupambana osankhidwa pamsonkhano.
Tsopano mukudziwa kuti sikuti ndi ngozi chabe, koma njira yodziwikiratu yomwe anthu odziwa bwino ntchito yawo amagwiritsa ntchito.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kutsimikizira anthu ndikuteteza malingaliro anu, phunzirani momwe mungapangire mafunso omwe mdani wanu adzakakamizidwa kunena "Inde".
Lolani kuti winayo alankhule
Musanayese kukopa wolowererayo, mupatseni mwayi wolankhula. Osamuthamangira kapena kumusokoneza, ngakhale simukugwirizana naye. Mothandizidwa ndi njirayi yosavuta, simungamumvetse bwino komanso kuzindikira masomphenya ake, komanso kukupambanitsani.
Kuphatikiza apo, ziyenera kudziwika kuti anthu ambiri amakonda kulankhula za iwo eni komanso zomwe akwanitsa kuchita koposa kumvera momwe timadzilankhulira tokha.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake, kuti muteteze bwino malingaliro anu, lolani mnzanu amene amalankhula naye kuti alankhule mokwanira. Izi zidzamuthandiza, monga akunenera, "kutulutsa nthunzi", ndipo mtsogolomo mudzatha kufotokoza malingaliro anu mosavuta.
Chifukwa chake, nthawi zonse mupatseni wolankhulayo mwayi wolankhula ngati mukufuna kuphunzira momwe mungalimbikitsire anthu pamalingaliro anu.
Yesani moona mtima kuti mumvetsetse mnzake
Monga lamulo, pokambirana, munthu amayesa, choyamba, kupereka malingaliro ake, kenako pokhapokha ngati zonse zikuyenda bwino, ayesa kumvetsetsa wophatikizira. Ndipo uku ndikulakwitsa kwakukulu!
Chowonadi ndichakuti aliyense wa ife amatenga nawo mbali pazokhudza izi kapena izi pazifukwa zina. Ngati mutha kumvetsetsa zomwe motsogozedwa wanu akutsogolera, mutha kufotokoza malingaliro anu kwa iye, ndikupambananso kumbali yanu.
Kuti muchite izi, yesetsani kudziyesa nokha.
Zochitika pamoyo wa nthumwi zambiri zapamwamba zaumunthu zikuwonetsa kuti kupambana mu ubale ndi anthu kumatsimikiziridwa ndi mkhalidwe wachifundo kumalingaliro awo.
Ngati, pamaupangiri onse omwe aperekedwa pano, mutenga chinthu chimodzi chokha - chizolowezi chowonera zinthu kuchokera pamzake, mosakayikira chidzakhala gawo lalikulu pakukula kwanu.
Chifukwa chake, lamulo nambala 6 limati: moona mtima yesetsani kumvetsetsa wolankhulayo komanso zolinga zenizeni za mawu ake ndi zochita zake.
Sonyezani chifundo
Mukufuna kudziwa mawu omwe amathetsa mikangano, amawononga dala, amapanga zabwino, ndikupangitsa ena kumvetsera mwatcheru? Ndi uyu:
"Sindikukuyimbani mlandu ngakhale pang'ono chifukwa chokhala ndi malingaliro otere; ndikadakhala inu, ndikadamvanso zomwezo."
Mtundu wamtunduwu umachepetsa wolankhulirana wokhumudwa kwambiri. Kuphatikiza apo, ukamayitchula, ukhoza kudziona kuti ndiwe wowona mtima, chifukwa ukadakhala munthu ameneyo, ndiye kuti ungamve ngati iye.
Ndi malingaliro otseguka, aliyense wa ife atha kuzindikira kuti yemwe inu simuli woyenera kwenikweni. Simunasankhe kuti mudzabadwira m'banja liti komanso munakula motani. Chifukwa chake, munthu wokwiya, wosalolera komanso wosasamala sayeneranso kuweruzidwa chifukwa chokhala momwe alili.
Mverani chisoni munthu wosauka. Mverani chisoni naye. Sonyezani chifundo. Dzifotokozere wekha zomwe a John Gough ananena atawona chidakwa chitaimirira. "Akadakhala ine, ngati sichoncho chifukwa cha chisomo cha Mulungu".
Atatu mwa anthu omwe mumakumana nawo mawa amalakalaka kumvera chisoni. Onetsani ndipo adzakukondani.
Mu Psychology of Parenting, Dr. Arthur Gate anati: “Munthu amafunitsitsa kuchitiridwa chifundo. Mwanayo amawonetsa kuvulala kwake, kapena amadzivulaza mwadala kuti adzutse chisoni chachikulu. Pachifukwa chomwechi, akuluakulu amalankhula mwatsatanetsatane za zovuta zawo ndipo amayembekeza chifundo. "
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kutsimikizira anthu malingaliro anu, phunzirani kuyamba kumvera chisoni malingaliro a ena ndi zokhumba zawo.
Pangani malingaliro anu momveka
Nthawi zambiri, kungonena zowona sikokwanira. Akufunika kumveka. Zachidziwikire, siziyenera kukhala zakuthupi. Pokambirana, itha kukhala fanizo lanzeru kapena fanizo kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa malingaliro anu.
Mukazindikira njirayi, malankhulidwe anu sangokhala olemera komanso okongola, komanso omveka bwino komanso omveka.
Kamodzi mphekesera zinafalikira za nyuzipepala yodziwika bwino kuti inali ndi zotsatsa zambiri komanso nkhani zochepa kwambiri. Misecheyi idabweretsa mavuto ambiri kubizinesiyo, ndipo imayenera kuyimitsidwa mwanjira ina.
Kenako utsogoleri udachita chinthu chodabwitsa.
Zida zonse zotsatsa sizinasankhidwe kuchokera munyuzipepala yovomerezeka. Adasindikizidwa ngati buku lapadera lotchedwa Tsiku Limodzi. Munali masamba 307 komanso zida zowerengera zosangalatsa.
Izi zidafotokozedwa momveka bwino, mosangalatsa komanso mochititsa chidwi kuposa zolemba zilizonse zakukondera.
Ngati mutchera khutu, muwona kuti masitepe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kulikonse: pawailesi yakanema, zamalonda, m'makampani akuluakulu, ndi zina zambiri.
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kukopa anthu ndikuteteza malingaliro anu, phunzirani kupatsa malingaliro kuwonekera.
Zovuta
Charles Schweb anali ndi woyang'anira malo ogwirira ntchito omwe antchito ake sanakwaniritse zofunikira pakupanga.
- Zimakhala bwanji, - adafunsa Schweb, - kuti munthu wokhoza ngati iwe sangapeze shopu kuti igwire bwino ntchito?
"Sindikudziwa," adayankha mkulu wogulitsayo, "ndidatsimikizira ogwira nawo ntchito, ndikuwakankhira mbali zonse, ndikuwadzudzula ndikuwopseza kuti achotsedwa ntchito. Koma palibe chomwe chimagwira, amalephera dongosolo.
Izi zidachitika kumapeto kwa tsikulo, kutatsala pang'ono kuti nthawi yosintha usiku iyambe.
"Ndipatseni choko," adatero Schweb. Kenako adatembenukira kwa wantchito wapafupi:
- Ndi zinthu zingati zomwe mashifiti apereka lero?
- Zisanu ndi chimodzi.
Popanda liwu, Schweb adayika nambala 6 pansi ndikunyamuka.
Ogwira ntchito usiku atafika, adawona "6" ndipo adafunsa tanthauzo lake.
Wantchito wina anayankha kuti, "Bwana wafika lero, adafunsa kuti tatuluka zochuluka bwanji ndikulemba pansi."
Kutacha m'mawa Schweb adabwerera ku shopu. Kusintha kwausiku kudasintha nambala "6" ndi "7" yayikulu.
Ogwira ntchito masana atawona "7" pansi, adayamba kugwira ntchito, ndipo madzulo adasiya "10" wonyada pansi. Zinthu zinayenda bwino.
Posakhalitsa, shopu yotsalayo idayamba kuchita bwino kuposa mbewu zina zonse.
Kodi tanthauzo la zomwe zikuchitika ndi chiyani?
Nayi mawu ochokera kwa Charles Schweb mwiniwake:
"Kuti ntchitoyo ichitike, muyenera kudzutsa mzimu wampikisano wathanzi."
Chifukwa chake, yesani pomwe palibe njira yothandizira.
Tiyeni tidule
Ngati mukufuna kuphunzira momwe mungakhalire otsimikiza kwa anthu ndi kuteteza malingaliro anu, tsatirani malamulowa:
- Dodge mkangano
- Vomerezani zolakwa
- Khalani ansangala
- Gwiritsani ntchito Njira Yachikhalidwe
- Lolani kuti winayo alankhule
- Yesani moona mtima kuti mumvetsetse mnzake
- Sonyezani chifundo
- Pangani malingaliro anu momveka
- Zovuta
Pamapeto pake, ndikulangiza kuti ndiyang'anire Zolakwitsa Zazidziwitso, pomwe zolakwitsa zomwe zimaganiziridwa zimaganiziridwa. Izi zidzakuthandizani osati kungodziwa zifukwa za zochita zanu, komanso kukupatsani chidziwitso cha zochita za anthu okuzungulirani.
